Childhood is such a delicate phase and every single incident happening during it accounts for a negative or positive expression or response in the crystal clear mind of that person. Bullying is as inevitable as friendships; and the child gets a hint of how hard school life can be. This traumatic experience affects three kinds of children – the one who bullies, the one who gets bullied and the one who witnesses this. But, what essentially does this mean?
Bullying is an aggressive and unwanted behavior that is usually seen among school-aged children, but is not limited to them. Bullying is also prevalent in work environments and institutions. It could include making threats, attacking – physically and emotionally, spreading rumors, making someone feel uncomfortable, excluding someone from a group on purpose and abuse.
People are not born as bullies but there are several reasons why they grow up to become bullies.
1 | Aggressiveness
Bullies are usually found among guys, fostered by the constant pressure by the society to hide their emotions or suppress it. The same society that tells the girls to express themselves in some form, asks the boys to “man up”. While everyone has their own way of dissipating negative emotions, some choose bullying as their escape. Aggressive behavior is slowly cultured likewise.
2 | Revenge
Bullied can become bullies eventually when they feel the desire to transfer their pain to someone else. When someone has been bullied for a long time and then they get an upper hand someplace else, they want to inflict pain on someone else with the same behavior.
3 | Domestic Life
Bullies usually develop their traits at home where the parents or the guardians do not spend enough time with them. They come from homes with huge families or with people whom they are living with, other than their biological parents, where they are usually ignored. They feel rejected by the very people who should love them unconditionally.
4 | Relationships
Bad relationships can encourage bullies. They might feel that they are not being cared for or loved enough. This can make them feel betrayed and hence, tempt them to express their anger in some form or the other. Under such circumstances, they take to bullying.
5 | Parenting
If parents are bullies themselves, children might grow up to become one too. Parents greatly reflect their values in their off-spring and parenting plays a great role as to how the kids turn out to be. Things like how the parents talk to other people, how they handle situations and how they communicate with their children are very important.
6 | Mass Media
What children watch on TV and news channels massively affect the way they respond to situations. Watching violent stuff, crime-related content and harassment might make them pick up certain traits that they feel seems enjoyable. They might want to try the same things on someone who appears smaller or weaker to them.
7 | Power and Attention
Children who are given power and heavy responsibilities might show it off by means of bullying. Especially, the ones who are vested with power without being given proper leadership skills could show signs of immaturity leading to bullying.
8 | Personal History
Social rejection or academic failure might lead to channeling the frustrations towards bullying the ones who are performing better, but are weaker physically.
The bully is as much affected as the bullied and both the parties need to deal with it properly. One could try and avoid being around a bully, so as denying opportunities to let the bullying happen. And the bully must be made to understand that it is wrong to pick on his weaker peers. Proper counseling, guidance and life values could be imbibed within the children to prevent such negative responses. After all, it is easier to raise a kind child than to repair a broken adult.